In this episode, Scott discusses the various types of spiritual bypassing common in the Mormon church and offers a few ways to interact with our friends and family that unknowingly bypass us emotionally. Wrapping it all together, Scott looks to Ernest Hemingway for inspiration on how to emotionally deal with a spiritual bypass.
John Welwood introduced the idea of spiritual bypassing as “…spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep personal, emotional ‘unfinished business,’ to shore up a shaky sense of self, or to belittle basic needs, feelings, and developmental tasks.” This quote is from his book Toward a Psychology of Awakening: Buddhism, Psychotherapy, and the Path of Personal and Spiritual Transformation.
The Sun Also Rises, by Ernest Hemingway, 1926
“Oh, Jake,” Brett said, “We could have had such a damned good time together.”
Ahead was a mounted policeman in khaki directing traffic. He raised his baton. The car slowed suddenly pressing Brett against me.
“Yes,” I said. “Isn’t it pretty to think so?”
Gabriela Picciotto, Jesse Fox & Félix Neto (2017): A phenomenology of spiritual bypass: Causes, consequences, and implications, Journal of Spirituality in Mental Health.